Ali MacGraw, the actress of “Love Story,” made the decision to leave Hollywood’s glitz and glamour for the calm serenity of a quaint little village. Despite the fact that both of her prior marriages ended in divorce, she has no regrets about her decision to live in such a serene environment and to retreat from the public eye.
Ali MacGraw will go down in history as one of the greatest actors ever thanks to her gorgeous features, razor-sharp humor, and perfect taste. Her romantic relationships, though, have also had an impact on the entertainment industry, so it’s not just her on-screen skills that have endured.
The renowned actress married three times during the course of her illustrious career. She wed the renowned producer Robert Evans after her first marriage to Robin Hoen. Her third marriage hasn’t yet been publicized. Last but not least, she got married to Steve McQueen, her “The Getaway” co-star.
In college, MacGraw met Hoen. She was hired as an assistant at a fashion magazine edited by the renowned fashion editor Diana Vreeland after graduating from Wellesley College. Hoen attended Harvard University for his studies.
The couple got married in 1961, but the following year they decided to split. After working in the fashion industry for a while, MacGraw had her big break in the 1970 movie “Love Story,” which started her career as a significant figure in the entertainment industry.
As an actress who gained notoriety, MacGraw was honored as a trailblazer in the fashion world by Calvin Klein, who described her aesthetic as “rich-hippie.” In terms of fashion history, she was on par with Jackie Onassis, a socialite and former first lady of the United States, and actress Katharine Hepburn.
A few years later, MacGraw met Evans, a renowned producer who had previously worked for Paramount Pictures as the production director. Although his career was short, he eventually found success in front of the camera.
Evans is credited as the producer of the critically acclaimed films “The Godfather” and “Chinatown”. He married MacGraw in 1969, and the couple welcomed a son they named Josh the following year, in 1971.
Evans avoided casting MacGraw in roles that may be bad for her career and instead gave her a diversity of roles. MacGraw was able to show off her versatility as a result. She appeared in “The Getaway,” a 1972 movie starring Steve McQueen, who at the time was referred to as “The King of Cool.”
McQueen was among the most well-known figures of the 1960s, and in 1966, his work in the movie “The Sand Pebbles” led to his nomination for an Academy Award.
McQueen and MacGraw developed a romantic relationship while the movie was being shot. After three years of marriage, MacGraw divorced Evans and wed McQueen the same year their romance started. Evans was married seven times prior to his passing in 2019.
Having experienced a difficult background, McQueen desired to have a “normal life,” so when MacGraw proposed to her, he made her give up her acting career. McQueen did this because he desired to lead a “regular life.” MacGraw remembered what this was:
“At the time, he was the most famous movie star in the world, and he didn’t want me to work. As a result, I virtually stopped creating movies and focused my attention on taking care of my son, Josh.”
Infidelity and drug misuse, both of which led to McQueen’s image as the industry’s “bad boy,” had a significant impact on the marriage that he had with MacGraw, according to the biographer Marc Eliot.
According to Eliot, McQueen had a reputation for being cold and severe. He allegedly often assaulted MacGraw physically and insisted that she serve him supper at exactly six o’clock each evening. He like to have his meals in alone while watching television.
In the end, the actress and McQueen decided to stop their relationship in the year 1977. In spite of the difficulties in their marriage, MacGraw continued to have positive things to say about McQueen.
MacGraw noted that her connection with McQueen was very passionate and potent, and she used the word “chemical” to describe their dynamic in an interview with People published in 2018.
She went on to add that McQueen had a fascinating presence that attracted the attention of everyone in the room, and that his magnetic aura did not spare her. She also said that McQueen had a captivating presence that grabbed the attention of everyone in the room.
MacGraw noted that the attractiveness of her third husband was not just due to his beautiful features but also because he radiated a sense of danger and a bad boy mentality. MacGraw believed that this added to the appeal of her third spouse.
MacGraw noted that she and her boyfriend had “great days and awful days,” but that she wishes they had grown old without abusing substances. She made this observation while reflecting on the past.
She made it clear that she did not consider herself to be a victim and that the dynamics of their relationship were not always harmonious. The pattern of a problematic marriage that she experienced with Hoen and Evans was the same one that she had with Evans.
MacGraw came clean about the reasons for her string of unsuccessful marriages during an appearance on “Super Soul Sunday” with the world-famous talk show presenter Oprah Winfrey. MacGraw said that her problems sprang from her childhood. It was discovered that
“The haughtiness of it boggles my head completely. The haughtiness of myself.”
MacGraw said that her comments should not be taken in a harsh manner at all. Instead, she held the belief that her partners should be able to comprehend her requirements even in the absence of her verbalization of those requirements. She gave many instances of the problems that occurred during her three marriages:
“It was something along the lines of, “Why can’t you read my thoughts to know what I like and what I don’t like?
… What about stating something like, “This doesn’t seem right,” or “That does,” or “I really would want to ask you if you could do this for me,” as some potential ways to communicate your feelings?”
Winfrey shared with MacGraw that it is possible for a relationship to suffer if a person is unable to articulate their wants and needs in a way that is easily understood by their spouse, and instead expects their partner to understand them on an intuitive level.
It seemed as if MacGraw was aware of her errors. She expressed regret that she did not seek for further financial assistance from her exes while she was married to them because she was not open to pursuing what she desired.
When deciding to retire at the pinnacle of one’s profession, she said that it was prudent to put one’s attention first and foremost on constructing a secure abode for oneself. On the other hand, she did not put a lot of consideration into this concept in the past.
MacGraw claims that she did not take any of the money from the divorce settlement because she considered that refusing to do so was the morally superior course of action. However, because of this decision, she is very close to becoming destitute. She fessed up to it:
“I had a romantic view of divorce, thinking to myself, ‘Aren’t I a nice girl?’ but the fact is that was silly,” she said.
MacGraw said that before they were married, McQueen had her sign a prenuptial agreement that stated that she would be financially responsible for him in the event that they divorced. As a direct consequence of this, she eventually became bankrupt after they split.
She had three unsuccessful marriages, all of which ended for the same reason, and as a result, she decided to give up the bright lights of Hollywood and a promising profession in order to find pleasure in motherhood and a peaceful life outside of Los Angeles.
The Overcoming of Obstacles and the Acquiring of Peace in Santa Fe
MacGraw left Hollywood because she was having trouble making ends meet as a result of her previous marriages. She made the decision to start over and relocated to Santa Fe, New Mexico, where she now lives a life that is low-key and simple.
Following the blaze that took place at her Malibu, California, home in 1993, she moved to Santa Fe, New Mexico, the following year. She has had the experience of living in a quaint tiny house, where she has pursued her hobbies of rock collecting and reading.
MacGraw discovered that spending time alone herself was rewarding, and she did not perceive herself as the stereotypical lady who would cater to her partner’s every whim.
She remembered the time when McQueen suggested that she give up her work and live a more conventional and domestic life at home with their children. However, as a result of this choice made by her ex-husband, she is now experiencing an overwhelming sense of disappointment.
MacGraw stated that it would be unacceptable for a wife to leave her husband and for the husband to continue with his life, such as kissing someone else for three months and then expecting everything to be the same when the wife returns home. She elaborated on this point by saying that it would be unacceptable for a wife to leave her husband and for the husband to continue with his life. In her words:
“Who wants to think about such things any longer? I don’t. I have a wonderful life, and it would be pointless for me to waste time dwelling on such matters. And I couldn’t be happier with how things turned out.”
After a difficult first marriage that lasted for five years and ended in divorce, Steve McQueen eventually remarried, but he passed away in 1980. He had reached the age of 50. After he passed away, MacGraw was left with a sense of emptiness and was unable to find any solace or serenity.
She said in her autobiography titled “Moving Pictures” that she had engaged in risky behaviors such as drinking excessively and becoming involved in hazardous relationships. MacGraw decided to get treatment and check into a rehabilitation facility in order to get over these challenges.
The year 1968 marks the year when she became a resident at the Betty Ford Center, which served as a watershed point in her life. She said that the program assisted her in finding a higher power as well as the serenity and order that she had been looking for for a considerable amount of time.
MacGraw has radiated positivity and has refused to linger on the faults of the past. She added that in the past she had the impression that a persona of charm, civility, and compliance veiled her own self from others, but that she has worked hard to remove that image and is now seeing the advantages of her efforts.
After Fame, Returning to a Life That Is Both Uncomplicated and Satisfying
MacGraw has reached the age of 83 at this point. The actress, who is a proud mother and grandmother, has been a proud single parent for the last 44 years. She has left the acting industry behind and has no intention of coming back into the limelight.
The seasoned actress also said that she has not been receiving a stable salary as of late, but she believes that being “far more renowned” has been more valuable to her career than being affluent.
She was able to adjust to a simpler lifestyle without having to make any significant compromises, which is a choice that many of her friends who are in similar circumstances struggle to come to terms with and make.
She also made a remark on the taxing aspect of celebrity, noting that despite the fact that it may seem gorgeous, being famous can be “exhausting” due to the constant attention and turmoil that exists in the entertainment industry. She went on to say that
“Being a movie star comes with a lot of crazy responsibilities, and as a result, you could find yourself feeling quite bewildered at times. It’s a really unsettling experience, especially if you haven’t spent your entire life expecting to be the focus of attention.”
MacGraw is happy to provide her support to issues that are important to her, such as the protection of animals and the environment, even if she may not have a lot of money to donate to charitable organizations.
In the past, she volunteered her time to assist a conservation organization in Vietnam known as Animal Asia. This organization’s primary focus was on the protection of bears in that nation. She went to the extent of flying to the nation to be of assistance to them in preventing the sanctuary from being shut down.
MacGraw has kept herself occupied since she lives in a small town, which offers a variety of organizations that need assistance. She believes that Santa Fe is a town that really cares for animals, and she herself is an active member of Animal Protection New Mexico, where she volunteers and provides financial assistance.
Because the organization has assured that domestic and wild animals would always be secure, protected, and cared for, she considers herself fortunate to be a member of the “world-class organization” that is located in her little town.
She said that she had to exercise self-control in order to avoid taking any more strays into her house. In addition to this, MacGraw has established very solid ties with the women in the neighborhood. She was quite pleased by the fact that they didn’t seem to worry about either their age or their attractiveness.
She finds that a peaceful existence in a New Mexico hamlet away from the spotlight is just what she needs. Her schedule consists of getting up at 5:30 in the morning, walking, gardening, painting, and volunteering throughout the day. She feeds her animals, too.
She is so committed to being healthy that she has been taking yoga and Pilates sessions. She also practices walking as a type of meditation every day, and at the end of each day, she engages in a period of self-reflection on the topic of gratitude that lasts for forty-five minutes.
MacGraw said in one of her thoughts that she often had the sensation that something was missing from her life, despite the fact that she has come to terms with the present state of her life since she is surrounded by lovely people with whom she shares affection.
She recognizes how extremely blessed she is to have them as a part of her life. She also dates often and stays in touch with a close-knit circle of friends in addition to resolving conflicts.
The time that MacGraw gets to spend with her only son, Josh, who is now a successful novelist, screenwriter, and director, is something that she treasures. She made the statement that her kid had grown up to be a beautiful guy. The adoring mother continued:
“He is my favorite human being on the whole earth, and he is dating a woman who I am completely obsessed with. Their connection is predicated not just on friendship but also on mutual regard for one another.”
Jackson is Josh’s first child as a parent. Josh now has a son. MacGraw is a devoted and proud mother and grandmother who acknowledges that being a parent is one of the “most difficult professions” in the world, yet also being one of the most rewarding.
In general, MacGraw has been able to find serenity and satisfaction in her existence in Santa Fe, which is uncomplicated, sedate, and not very “cool.” She has, at long last, released her attachment to the events of her past and is now concentrating on savoring the time she spends with her close friends and family.
She has been able to live a life of fulfillment and make a great influence on her community in spite of the challenges she has faced with regard to both her finances and her romantic relationships. MacGraw is a source of motivation for many people because he demonstrates that one may discover genuine joy in the strangest of settings.